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How can I change our boring sex life?

Dear Hoda
I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years, and our sex life has always been bland. I fantasize about other men and situations, and when I’m alone, I look at porn and wish he’d do certain things to me. How can I convince him to?
Aarifa

Dear Aarifa;
Whoa, three years is a long time to be having lame sex. Nevertheless, you can’t completely blame your boyfriend. Assuming he’s relatively happy with the status quo, he has little incentive to change his routine if you appear to be a satisfied customer.

That said, you can’t just come out and tell him you think he’s boring. He’ll find that to be a serious betrayal and wonder why you’ve never said anything. Instead, why not suggest you watch some porn together? When you see something that turns you on, tell him that you’d like to try it with him and it’d make you feel hot if he did it to you.

Tread carefully, however, because you don’t want him to get a complex about not being hung like Rex Hardwicke. You need to make sure everything you say is about what you want to do with your guy. During sex, show him what you like instead of waiting for him to figure it out magically. Then sing his praises when he does something you love. Porn + positive reinforcement = a perfect recipe for great sex.

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Dating A Friend's Brother Is Not Off Limits

Dear Hoda;
My best guy friend has a hot older brother, whom I’ve always had a crush on. It wasn’t an issue until he moved back to the city where we live. Now I see him all the time, and I feel like there’s something there. I don’t want my friend to get weird, so is his brother off-limits?
Fida

Dear Fida;
Off-limits would be the jerk who beat up your friend every day when they were in eighth grade. Or the guy who once stole his girlfriend. Or the quarterback for the rival of his favorite NFL team. But your friend’s brother? There’s nothing wrong with that.

In theory, at least. If you think your guy friend might have a secret crush on you, then it will be a problem. Even if he’s not interested in that way, he's bound to get jealous when you start spending more time with his sibling than with him. Plus, he'll have to deal with the thought of one of his best friends sleeping with his brother. Ew.

Assuming your pal isn't secretly in love with you, there's one question you need to answer: Is it more important to maintain your relationship exactly the way it is or to see where things might go with the brother? Because while it may not be a big change, or even a bad change, you can be certain that your friendship will change.

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